Whoah,I didn't know someone would still reply on this thread. I think I'm obligated to respond to ultimoAdios's post.
Can you please specify women are doing that if I do it became fishy?
Wearing make up, wearing feminine clothes, collecting dolls. Fishy in the sense that people might interpret the person as "Bading".
What part of our culture would say its fishy?
I don't wanna delve deeper into this "part of our culture". Suffice it to say that many of us Filipinos would think someone is gay just by their appearance and their actions. Of course I didn't do a scientific research about this. It's just based on my experience.
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Well, here's my preliminary understanding:
...all I can say is..."kapag babae may bigote yan ay lalake"
All I can say is, there are women who have some genetic defects who have bigote and they're not lalake.
it's becoming pretty common nowadays for women to do what men usually do
FACT:
In the U.S. during the second world war, when American men working force went to join the war, women filled the void. Later, women filled in the sports too--baseball league for instance. Baseball league was played by women.
What's your point?
This is still a trend nevertheless since feminist groups are still fighting for their rights. The trend just happen to start long time ago. If not because of them, men wouldn't wake up to the fact that men and women are created equal. Thanks to them, women now have equal rights.
That's the reason why a lot of women are now doing what men usually do - some do it out of sheer interest, passion, and of course just mere woman's "pride".
Where did you get this fact? Can you tell me who did this study or research? "on the Reasons Why Lot of women are now doing what men do?" You know what? Women do what men are doing now because they have the FREEDOM to do it!
Whoah, I should have been more careful with my choice of words. I'm not claiming it as a fact backed up by scientific papers, but as a personal interpretation of what's happening around me. Now, not having a paper written about it doesn't mean my statement is untrue. You could actually observe it for yourself. Saying that women do what they're doing coz they have freedom to do it is tantamount to saying we speak because we have vocal chords, or that we walk because we have feet, and there's space to walk on. Can't you see that I'm trying to make a point about feminist motivation? And not the vehicle that drives them to realize their motive?
"It only becomes wrong if the motivation of women is to just "prove" that they can do it. It is wrong if the motivation behind their actions is the belief that if they don't do it, "they are inferior".
Who are we to judge if their motivation is right or wrong? Women should always do extraordinary things and always prove something to protect what they have earned from some men who think otherwise. Men needed to always be reminded.
We can actually judge it's right or wrong just by seeing that their motivation is wrong. It's stupid to just do something because "I wanna prove men wrong that women inferior". In the first place, civilized men do not think women are inferior, so the premise of their motivation is wrong. You should have seen my statement in the light of the context of my post.
Civilized men do not regard women as inferior, only different.
I don't think women are different. Women are not different. They are human being like me. They need to be respected.
Again, you are misunderstanding me. We as individuals are different aren't we? Yet we're all human beings. Men and Women have fundamental differences, and also fundamental similarities, like being human.
The difference is not a matter of who's inferior or superior. The difference is more on what one can do more efficiently.
Lastly,
The key to understand each other, and avoid conflicts is to understand words on how the speaker meant it, not how the words mean to you. Words can mean different things to different people. Like Ladybug said - CONTEXT.
To avoid conflict is to shut up... And always expect people to misinterpret you or misconstrued you or just want to hear what they wanted to hear.
We can actually talk and not be in conflict. We can actually disagree without being disagreeable. And yes I kinda expect that people will misunderstand me, it happened a lot in this forum.
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